Love suffers long and is kind

“Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up.” 1 Corinthians 13:4

Some time ago Herb Vander Lugt wrote a short piece called Bellyaching And Its Cure and in it he related to a short proverb that I had read before in some insperationial book that I cannot remember. Anyway the story goes this way:

A mentally impaired man always shook hands with his pastor after each service. But he often made critical comments like these: “You preach too long.” “Your sermons are boring.” “You talk about yourself too much.” Distressed, the pastor mentioned this to a deacon, who replied, “Oh, don’t worry about him. All he does is parrot what he hears others say.”

The purpose of this proverb as Lugt elates to is that “grumbling is an all-too-common sin” and a great many in this world, christian and non christian, do a lot more of it than we should especially when someone is trying to serve the best interest of as many as he can and still attempt to serve the Lord.

Now myself, I have done my share of under the breath comments, but instead of sneaking around the back door, I tend to beat on the front door and ask the question directly.

If I am unsatisfied, I volunteer to help and try to understand the opposing point of view. If I continue to miss the point, I have to reasonably deduce that it is a subject that is beyond my hope of understanding or something I morally or by constitutional design disagree with. If I disagree to that  extent then my problem solving skills kick in and I try to figure how I am going to handle it…. sometimes discussing it with someone who thinks the same as I. It brought me through Southeast Asia, my work in engineering, in private business and in government.

You might think that after all of this I might have an ucler by now considering my political and moral stances, but those are the very reasons that I don’t. Believe me when I tell that I have gotten emotional and have been pushed to the treshold of my tolerance many times. I try my best to remain calm and remember the verse about how “love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; . . . love does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil” (1 Corinthians 13:4-5) and I try to practice that thought.

These days I am the one that others seem to find fault in, for I hear the whispers as if they were screaming banshees, yet so few call to will come forward to discuss a point of issue.

So I depend upon my God for “Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked or stand in the way of sinners or sit in the seat of mockers” and try to live my life accordingly.

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